Divorce or separation can be one of the hardest transitions to navigate due to the personal, financial, and psychological implications of everyone involved. There is often a lot of uncertainty, intense emotions, and worry about what it will mean for children involved in separation and divorce. At the same time, there is often a commitment by parents to insulate their children as much as possible from its effects. Children who are well insulated from the effects of separation and divorce often go on to lead healthy lives and adjust relatively well to new family arrangements. They have outlets for their feelings, reassurance to their concerns, and experience validation in being understood. Children uninsulated from the effects of separation and divorce may be exposed to a lot of parental suffering. They may dismiss their own emotional needs and believe that they need to instead attend to the emotional needs of their parent (s). This is why it can be important for parents to find their own emotional supports throughout these times. Children need to know that parents can still be parents and that they will do what they need to do to take care of their own well-being. This type of modeling is crucial to help children do the same. An important message often to children is "If it hurts, then that's okay - let it hurt. If you can, tell me why you think it hurts. I am here to listen and understand what is going on for you." It is often the case that parents who have had the opportunity to communicate similar feelings to someone supportive are in a better position to be able to offer this type of listening to their children. However, sometimes parents also recognize that they are not always the best listeners and find that their children are better off with a counselling referral. Nobody should feel shamed or embarrassed by getting help under these circumstances. Instead, it is useful to look at counselling as an opportunity to be there for ourselves and others; that is, if we can take care of our own needs, we will be in a better position to take care of others through this transitional time.